Tonight I am grateful for conversations with my kids and the people in their lives. One conversation, in particular, was quite eye-opening.
Janie was reading from her new book, Drama by Raina Telgemeier. She was reading a description of one character told by another.
She immediately chimed in, "Oh, she's a level one!"
"What? Did it say that?"
"NO! Didn't you hear what he said about her? It's everything a level one is."
I probed for more information. I knew exactly what she was talking about but I wanted to play dumb for a moment and hear her tell me.
We have a character education program at our school. One of the character traits is kindness and it is broken into four levels. I like this because it's true, kindness can look different and feel different depending on the situation. I asked her to tell me about the levels.
"Well, level one is caring about only yourself. Level two is when you care about yourself and your friends. Level three is caring about your friends, family, and yourself. Level four is caring about people who don't care about you."
I looked at her hard, "What level are you?"
She took a breath, "I'm a level three. It's hard to care about people when they are mean to you."
"Yes, it really is. I bet it takes a lot of work and time before someone becomes a level four. What do you think you would need to do?"
She paused for a moment, "You have to talk to people even when you don't want to."
"Yeah, I suppose you are right. Talking is always a good place to start."
With that, I gave her a kiss on the head and let her get back to her book.
It was a nice way to end the day. I'm proud of her for being so reflective and realizing she has growing to do. We're never done growing.